So, your teen has hit the “I don’t believe in God” phase. It’s like getting a surprise pop quiz you didn’t study for. But don’t panic! The key to responding isn’t about having the perfect answer—it’s about mastering the art of listening first.
Step one: Put down your theological textbooks and just listen. I know, it’s tempting to jump in with a sermon or a Bible verse, but sometimes what a teen really needs is for you to hear them out. Maybe they have doubts, maybe they’re curious, or maybe they just want to see if you’ll still love them when they question things. Remember, Proverbs 18:13 says, “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.” So, take a deep breath, lean in, and listen without interrupting. You’ll gain valuable insight into where they’re coming from.
Once they’ve shared, ask thoughtful, open-ended questions to explore their thoughts further. It’s not about winning an argument, but understanding them better. For example, “What makes you feel that way?” or “What do you think about how Christians live their faith?” This turns the conversation into a dialogue, not a monologue.
Next, offer gentle responses—no fire and brimstone. Share what you believe, but do so with empathy. Romans 12:15 tells us to “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn,” which means, meet them where they are, and don't act like it's a battle to be won.
Finally, remind them that questioning doesn’t mean rejecting. Faith isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about walking alongside each other. So, keep the lines of communication open, and remember, your love and patience speak louder than any sermon.
